It is normal for children to feel they are the center of the world. This is great when things are running smoothly, scary when things are not running so smoothly. Children tend to blame themselves when things go wrong. For example, it is imperative that parents who divorce let the kids know it has nothing to do with them and that both parents will always love them. Children will sometimes believe if they had behaved better, or had been a better son or daughter, their parents would not have divorced. Let’s go a step further, shall we? In my novel, Pop, I explain feeling responsible for my step-father coming home drunk. It started one night, when it was late. I fell asleep with my fingers crossed, wishing he would not come home drunk and start breaking things. Of course, he did. As a result, for the next year, my child-like thinking declared that I must NOT cross anything, or he would come home drunk. Everytime I accidentally crossed my arms, legs, feet at the ankles (anything) I was sure that I was responsible for Pop coming home drunk (even it it happened in my sleep). This way of thinking also has a lot to do with control. A child has very little control over what happens in his or her life. Controlling what parts of my body I crossed, gave me a sense of having some control over the situation. Obviously, it was false (not to mention, it never worked), but my own body was something I could control. With children, please Beware the Power of Responsibility.